Selasa, 13 Januari 2015

Renungan Siang



KETIKA
Aku ingin hidup KAYA...
Aku lupa,
bahwa HIDUP itu sendiri adalah sebuah KEKAYAAN.

����~KETIKA...
Aku takut MEMBERI...
Aku lupa,
bahwa SEMUA yang aku miliki juga adalah PEMBERIAN.

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Aku ingin jadi yang TERKUAT...
Aku lupa,
bahwa dalam KELEMAHAN....
Tuhan memberikan aku KEKUATAN.

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Aku takut RUGI...
Aku lupa,
bahwa  HIDUPKU...
Adalah sebuah KEBERUNTUNGAN, karena AnugerahNYA.

Ternyata hidup ini sangat indah...
ketika kita selalu BERSYUKUR kepadaNYA

��~BUKAN...
karena hari ini INDAH kita BAHAGIA...
Tetapi karena kita BAHAGIA...
maka hari ini menjadi INDAH.

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karena tak ada RINTANGAN kita menjadi OPTIMIS...
Tetapi karena kita OPTIMIS...
RINTANGAN akan menjadi tak terasa.

������~BUKAN...
karena MUDAH kita YAKIN BISA...
Tetapi karena kita YAKIN BISA... semuanya menjadi MUDAH.

������~BUKAN...
karena semua BAIK kita TERSENYUM...
Tetapi karena kita TERSENYUM maka semua menjadi BAIK.

Tak ada hari yang MENYULITKAN kita, kecuali kita SENDIRI yang membuat SULIT.

��~BILA...
kita tidak dapat menjadi jalan besar...
cukuplah menjadi jalan setapak yang dapat dilalui orang.

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kita tidak dapat menjadi matahari...
cukuplah menjadi lilin yang dapat menerangi sekitar kita.

������~BILA...
kita tidak dapat berbuat sesuatu untuk seseorang...
cukuplah berdoa untuknya
Rendahkan Hati ,maka akan menjadi org yang disegani 
Semangatlah ,maka  akan selalu Sukses
Bijaksanalah ,maka akan banyak meraih simpati.
Semoga bermanfaat..slm sukses..

Sabtu, 08 November 2014

Good Strory


Tahukah Anda,mengapa anak kecil tertawa ketika anda ayunkan ke atas?                                                    Karena ia tahu bahwa anda pasti akan menangkapnya & tidak akan membiarkannya jatuh.Itulah Keyakinan.
Begitupula keyakinan kepada ALLAH.                                   Walaupun keadaan buruk melempar kita,yakinlah bahwa kasih sayang Allah pasti akan menangkap kita sebelum kita terjatuh.      
                  
Have a Quality Time with your family.

Sabtu, 07 Juni 2014

Nice Story


Tua itu PASTI, tapi Dewasa itu PILIHAN 

Suatu malam, ibu yg bangun sejak pagi, bekerja keras sepanjang hari, membereskan rumah tanpa pembantu, jam tujuh malam ibu selesai menghidangkan makan malam utk ayah, sangat sederhana, berupa telur mata sapi, tempe goreng, sambal teri dan nasi. Sayangnya karena mengurusi adik yg merengek, tempe dan telor gorengnya sedikit gosong! Saya melihat ibu sedikit panik, tapi tdk bisa berbuat banyak, minyak gorengnya sdh habis. Kami menunggu dgn tegang apa reaksi ayah yg pulang kerja pasti sdh capek, melihat makan malamnya hanya tempe dan telur gosong. Luar biasa! Ayah dgn tenang menikmati dan memakan semua yg disiapkan ibu dgn tersenyum dan bahkan berkata, "Bu terima kasih ya!" Lalu ayah terus menanyakan kegiatan saya & adik di sekolah. Selesai makan, masih di meja makan, saya mendengar ibu meminta maaf krn telor & tempe yg gosong itu & satu hal yg tidak pernah sy lupakan adalah apa yg ayah katakan... "Sayang, aku suka telor & tempe yg gosong." Sebelum tidur, saya pergi untuk memberikan ciuman selamat tidur kpd ayah, saya bertanya apakah ayah benar-benar menyukai telur & tempe gosong?" Ayah memeluk saya erat dengan kedua lengannya & berkata, "Anakku, ibu sdh bekerja keras sepanjang hari & dia benar-benar sdh capek, Jadi sepotong telor & tempe yg gosong tidak akan menyakiti siapa pun kok!"  

Ini pelajaran yg saya praktekkan di tahun-tahun berikutnya... "Belajar menerima kesalahan orang lain, adalah satu kunci yg sangat penting utk menciptakan sebuah hubungan yg sehat, bertumbuh & abadi". 

Ingatlah emosi tdk akan pernah menyelesaikan masalah yg ada, jadi selalulah berpikir dewasa. Mengapa sesuatu hal itu bisa terjadi pasti punya alasannya sendiri. Janganlah kita menjadi org yg egois, yg hanya mau dimengerti, tapi tdk mau mengerti. Mari... belajar menjadi seorang yang DEWASA utk slalu menghargai pengabdian/pengorbanan mereka yg berusaha terus hanya memberi yg terbaik utk kita terimalah apa adanya semua berbahagia

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Rabu, 21 Mei 2014

Kasih Ibu

Seorang anak bertengkar denganibunya & meninggalkan rumah. Saat berjalan ia baru menyadari bahwa ia
sama sekali tidak membawa uang. Ia melewati sebuah kedai bakmi. Ia ingin sekali memesan semangkok bakmi karena lapar.
Pemilik bakmi melihat anak itu berdiri cukup lama di depan kedainya, lalu bertanya "Nak, apakah engkau ingin
memesan bakmi?" "Ya, tetapi aku tidak membawa uang, "jawab anak itu dengan malu-malu. "Tidak apa-apa, aku akan
mentraktirmu." jawab si pemilik kedai.
Anak itu segera makan. Kemudian air matanya mulai berlinang. "Ada apa Nak?" Tanya si pemilik kedai. "Tidak apa
-apa, aku hanya terharu karena seorang yg baru kukenal memberi aku semangkuk bakmi tetapi ibuku sendiri
setelah bertengkar denganku, seperti tidak peduli padaku. Kau seorang yang baru kukenal tetapi begitu peduli padaku.
Pemilik kedai itu berkata "Nak, mengapa kau berpikir begitu? Renungkan hal ini, aku hanya memberimu semangkuk
bakmi & kau begitu terharu…. Ibumu telah memasak bakmi, nasi, dan lain-lain sampai kamu dewasa, harusnya kamu
berterima kasih kepadanya.
Anak itu kaget mendengar hal tersebut. " Mengapa aku tidak berpikir tentang hal itu?"
Untuk semangkuk bakmi dari orang yang baru kukenal aku begitu berterima kasih, tetapi terhadap ibuku yang
memasak untukku selama bertahuntahun, aku bahkan tidak peduli.
Anak itu segera menghabiskan bakminya lalu ia menguatkan dirinya untuk segera pulang. Begitu sampai
di ambang pintu rumah, ia melihat ibunya dengan wajah letih & cemas. Ketika melihat anaknya, kalimat
pertama yang keluar dari mulutnya adalah "Nak, kau sudah pulang, cepat masuk, aku telah menyiapkan makan malam."
Mendengar hal itu, si anak tidak dapat menahan tangisnya & ia menangis di hadapan ibunya.

Semoga dengan ini kita dapat lebih merasakan setiap kasih yang diberikanoleh ibu.


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Selasa, 20 Mei 2014

Membangun Pertemanan yang Kokoh


Rabu, 21 Mei 2014 - Membangun Pertemanan Yg Kokoh | Amsal 17:17

Hubungan yang sehat akan berkembang bila ada:

Keterbukaan. Kita harus jujur kepada teman kita dan mendorong mereka untuk juga jujur kepada kita. Untuk mempertahankan ikatan yang kuat, kita tidak dapat menyembunyikan rasa sakit atau perasaan tertolak yang mungkin disebabkan oleh mereka. Transparansi disertai sikap bertanggung jawab dapat juga menolong setiap individu untuk menjadi pribadi yang lebih baik. 

Hubungan yang kokoh mengijinkan setiap pihak untuk dengan lembut menunjukkan kesalahan di kehidupan pihak yang lain dan mengoreksi mereka dengan penuh kasih. 

Waktu dan percakapan. Dibutuhkan waktu untuk membangun pertemanan yang tulus. Kita harus bersedia untuk mengesampingkan kewajiban lainnya dan memprioritaskan waktu yang dihabiskan bersama. Porsi waktu kita dengan teman kita harus dilewatkan dengan percakapan - berbicara tentang pemikiran dan keinginan kita dan juga menanyakan pertanyaan yang mendorong teman kita untuk terbuka. Percakapan semacam ini mengijinkan kita untuk mengetahui hati dan pikiran teman kita. 

Ucapan terima kasih. Setiap orang senang dihargai. Mengekspresikan ungkapan terima kasih saat teman kita begitu membantu akan mengingatkan mereka bahwa kita bersyukur memiliki mereka dalam kehidupan kita. Lebih dari itu, kita menegaskan kasih kita saat kita mengkomunikasikan betapa kita menikmati aspek tertentu dari kepribadian mereka atau mengingat suatu kejadian yang khusus bagi mereka. 


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Kamis, 15 Mei 2014

Pelajaran Hidup

Konon survey membuktikan: 
1. Sebuah smartphone, 70% fiturnya tidak terpakai (mubazir). 
 2. Sebuah mobil mewah, 70% speednya mubazir. 
3. Sebuah villa mewah, 70% luasnya dibiarkan kosong. 
 4. Sebuah Universitas, 70% materi kuliahnya tidak dapat diterapkan. 
 5. Seabreg kegiatan sosial masyarakat, 70% nya iseng tidak bermakna. 
 6. Pakaian dan peralatan dalam sebuah rumah, 70%nya nganggur tidak terpakai. 
 7. Seumur hidup cari duit banyak, 70% nya dinikmati ahli waris.

 "Hidup ini seperti pertandingan bola" 

  • Babak Pertama adalah masa muda. Menanjak karena Pengetahuan, Kekuasaan, Jabatan, Usaha Bisnis, dsb. 
  • Babak kedua adalah masa tua. Menurun karena Darah Tinggi, Trigliserid, Gula Darah, Asam Urat, Kolestrol.... dsb. 
  • Oleh sebab itu, Semoga kita selalu Waspada dari babak Awal hingga Akhir, dan ending dengan kemenangan….
Karena itu : 
  •  Tidak Sakit Juga Harus Check Up, 
  •  Tidak Haus juga harus Minum.
  •  Tidak Galau juga Harus Cari Solusi, 
  •  Benar Juga Harus Mengalah. 
  •  Powerfull juga Perlu Merendah, 
  •  Tidak Cape pun Perlu Rehat. 
  •  Tidak kaya pun Perlu Bersyukur
  • Sesibuk Apa pun Juga Perlu Olahraga. Sadarlah, Hidup itu Pendek, pasti ada Saatnya Finish! 
  • Jangan tertipu dengan usia MUDA, karena syarat mati tidak harus TUA ! Jangan terpedaya dengan tubuh dan badan SEHAT, karena syarat mati tidak mesti SAKIT. 
  • Teruslah berbuat baik, berkata baik, memberi nasihat yang baik, walaupun tidak banyak orang yg memahamimu. 
  • Jadilah seperti jantung, dia tidak terlihat,tetapi terus berdenyut setiap saat hingga membuat kita terus hidup sampai akhir hayat. AJAL Tak Mengenal Waktu, Usia, jadi... Terus Berbuat Baik dan menyampaikan Kebenaran terhadap Sesama. 
 Have a great day

Rabu, 26 Maret 2014

Lessons From Lincoln: 5 Leadership Tips History And Science Agree On



Lessons From Lincoln: 5 Leadership Tips History And Science Agree On

USA, Washington D.C., Lincoln Memorial statue, close-up 

Abraham Lincoln gets a lot of credit for being a great leader. And he deserves it, but…

Frankly, most of us don't really know why he deserves it.

What made him such an extraordinary leader? And does modern research back up his methods?

Here's what Honest Abe did, why it works and how it can make you a better leader.

1) Get Out Of The Office And Circulate Among The Troops

In 1861 Lincoln spent more time outside the White House than in it.

And it's believed he met every single Union soldier who enlisted early in the Civil War.

How's that for being an accessible leader?

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

As remarkable as it may seem, in 1861 Lincoln spent more time out of the White House than he did in it. And the chances are good that if a Union soldier had enlisted early in the Civil War, he saw the president in person. Lincoln made it a point to personally inspect every state regiment of volunteers that passed through Washington D.C., on their way to the front; and early in the war they all passed through Washington, D.C.

Lincoln knew people were his best source of information. And accessibility built trust. He spent 75% of the day meeting with people.

Lincoln had an open-door policy. Yeah, the President of the United States had an open-door policy.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

Lincoln was probably the most accessible chief executive the United States has ever known… John Nicolay and John Hay, his personal secretaries, reported that Lincoln spent 75 percent of his time meeting with people. No matter how busy the president was, he always seemed to find time for those who called on him.

Guess what? Modern business theory backs him up.

These days the management gurus call it "Managing by Wandering Around." Seriously.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

…Lincoln revealed the cornerstone of his own personal leadership philosophy, an approach that would become part of a revolution in modern leadership thinking 100 years later when it was dubbed MBWA (Managing by Wandering Around) by Tom Peters and Robert Waterman in their 1982 book In Search Of Excellence.

Lincoln was always trying to get the best information so he could make good decisions.

He was constantly emailing and texting on his iPhone… Umm, well, the 19th century equivalent of it, at least.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

He virtually lived at the War Department's telegraph office so he could gain access to key information for quick, timely decisions.

What do CEO's of the modern era still spend much of their time doing?

The exact same thing Lincoln did: trying to get the information they need to make good decisions.

Via John P. Kotter on What Leaders Really Do:

The GMs do not limit their focus to planning, business strategy, staffing, and other "top management concerns." They discuss virtually anything and everything even remotely associated with their businesses and organizations…. In these conversations, GMs typically ask a lot of questions. In a half-hour conversation, some will ask literally hundreds.

(More on what all great leaders have in common here.)

2) Persuade Rather Than Coerce

Despite having the power of the presidency, Lincoln didn't strongarm people; he persuaded them. How did he do it?

He made them his friends. He made them like him. Here's Lincoln talking about his methods:

When the conduct of men is designed to be influenced, persuasion, kind, unassuming persuasion, should ever be adopted. It is an old and a true maxim, that a "drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall." So with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein is a drop of honey that catches his heart, which, say what he will, is the great high road to his reason, and which, when once gained, you will find by little trouble in convincing his judgment of the justice of your cause, if indeed that cause really be a just one.

And it shows in the way he handled subordinates.

He didn't give orders — he made requests. Look at his letters:

To McClellan (10-13-63): "…This letter is in no sense an order."

To Halleck (9-19-63): "I hope you will consider it…"

To Burnside (9-27-63): "It was suggested to you, not ordered…"

Does the modern research agree? Oh yeah.

What's the #1 thing Harvard Business School teaches it's MBA students about negotiation?

"They need to like you."

About 3:30 into the video below:

Here's the equation for getting what you want. Cutting to the chase: You want to get more. You want more money, a better offer, a better deal; here are the components of what you need to do. First, they need to like you. That's the first component. The things you do that make them like you less make it less likely that you are going to get what you want…

From my interview with Bob: Liking is one of fundamental principles that leading persuasion expert Robert Cialdini's detailed in his classic book, Influence.

No surprise that people prefer to say yes to a request to the degree that they know and like the requester. A simple way to make things happen in your direction is to uncover genuine similarities or parallels that exist between you and the person you want to influence, and then raise them to the surface. That increases rapport.

Lincoln has a famous quote on the subject:

I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.

(Learn the methods hostage negotiators use to bond with hostage takers here.)

3) Lead By Being Led

Lincoln always gave credit where credit was due and took responsibility when things went wrong.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

Not only did this satisfy Lincoln's need for honesty, integrity and human dignity; it also gave his subordinates the correct perception that they were, in many ways, doing the leading, not Lincoln. If nothing else, it made them feel good about their jobs. It also encouraged innovation and risk taking because they knew that if they failed, Lincoln would not blame them.

By doing this he dodged what Harvard professor Gautam Mukunda says is the most common leadership mistake: hubris.

Lincoln had no problem saying he screwed up, like in this letter to General Ulysses S. Grant:

I write this now as a grateful acknowledgement for the almost inestimable service you have done the country. I wish to say a word further. When you reached the vicinity of Vicksburg… I never had any faith, except a general hope that you knew better than I that the expedition could succeed… I feared it was a mistake. I now wish to make the personal acknowledgement that you were right, and I was wrong.

He trusted the judgment of the people who were on the front lines. This is one of the hallmarks of good military leadership.

Looking at the research, what type of leadership works in the toughest situations?

Lincoln's method: being democratic and listening.

Via Bold Endeavors: Lessons from Polar and Space Exploration:

During the early 1960s, the Navy Medical Neuropsychiatric Research Unit (now the Naval Health Research Center) conducted a series of studies concerning leadership at small Antarctic stations. In that research program, Nelson (1962) found that esteemed leaders tended to possess a relatively democratic leadership orientation and a leadership style characterized by greater participation in activities than traditional for a military organization. Further, the esteemed leaders developed individual relationships with each of their crew members and reportedly sought the opinions of individual crew members about issues directly concerning them.

Leaders take note: research shows that not worrying about who gets the credit for an idea is key to influencing people.

And the greatest minds of history agree. As Lao Tzu said:

Fail to honor people, they fail to honor you. But of a good leader, who talks little, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will all say "We did this ourselves."

(Learn what type of leader you are here.)

4) Encourage Innovation

Lots of lip service is paid to encouraging innovation these days. What did Lincoln know about innovating?

Well, he's the only U.S. President to ever patent something.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

Years before assuming the presidency, Lincoln had shown his interest in innovation when, on March 10, 1849 (at age forty), he received a patent for a new method of making grounded boats more buoyant.

What does it take to increase creativity and innovation in an organization? As I've said before, it's pretty straightforward:

Reward people for trying new things and don't punish them for failure.

Lincoln knew this.

Via Lincoln On Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times:

And even during his most difficult times, Lincoln continued to call on his subordinates to screen new advances, implement ideas, and win while learning. He realized that, as an executive leader, it was his chief responsibility to create the climate of risk-free entrepreneurship necessary to foster effective innovation.

(More on the single most proven way to innovate here.)

5) Influence People Through Storytelling

By all accounts, Lincoln was a great storyteller and he actively leveraged this skill to win people over.

Lincoln himself said it plainly:

They say I tell a great many stories. I reckon I do; but I have learned from long experience that plain people, take them as they run, are more easily influenced through the medium of a broad and humorous illustration than in any other way…

And research from Stanford backs him up.

Facts and statistics are great but when people hear presentations what do they remember? The stories.

Via Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die:

When students are asked to recall the speeches, 63 percent remember the stories. Only 5 percent remember any individual statistic.

If you're a leader as Lincoln was, you need to know what studies show inspires team morale. And the answer is great stories:

"Institutions that can communicate a compelling historical narrative often inspire a special kind of commitment among employees. It is this dedication that directly affects a company's success and is critical to creating a strong corporate legacy," said author Adam Galinsky, Morris and Alice Kaplan professor of ethics and decision in management.

As I've posted many times, storytelling can improve almost every area of your life. Why is storytelling so powerful?

Stanford professor Jennifer Aaker has done research showing stories are key to our sense of meaning:

Some new studies suggest if we spend time thinking about stories in our lives, that might be a more effective way of figuring out what is meaningful versus not.

(More on how to tell great stories from a UCLA film school professor here.)

Sum Up

Leadership lessons you can learn from Lincoln:

1.   Get Out Of The Office And Circulate Among The Troops

2.   Persuade Rather Than Coerce

3.   Lead By Being Led

4.   Encourage Innovation

5.   Influence People Through Storytelling

There's a lot to learn from Lincoln.

And people didn't just love Honest Abe because he was a wise leader; he also had a good sense of humor:

If I were two-faced, would I be wearing this one?